Code of Conduct

we are here. is a community for human beings. That only works if everyone treats everyone else like a human being. This Code of Conduct is how we stay a place worth being.

Our pledge

We pledge to make participation in we are here. a harassment-free experience for everyone, regardless of age, body size, visible or invisible disability, ethnicity, sex characteristics, gender identity or expression, level of experience, education, socio-economic status, nationality, personal appearance, race, caste, color, religion, or sexual identity and orientation.

We pledge to act and interact in ways that contribute to an open, welcoming, diverse, inclusive, and healthy community.

How we act here

Behavior that makes the community better:

• Use welcoming and inclusive language. Assume good faith. Check your own assumptions.
• Respect differing viewpoints and experiences. You will meet people whose lives do not look like yours. That's the point.
• Accept constructive feedback gracefully. Nobody's immune to being wrong. Least of all us.
• Focus on what is best for the community, not just yourself.
• Show empathy. Especially toward people who are new, unsure, or struggling.
• Share generously. Real answers, real recommendations, real experience.

Behavior that is not welcome:

• Harassment of any kind, including sexualized language or imagery, unwelcome sexual attention or advances, stalking, or following.
• Trolling, insulting or derogatory comments, personal attacks, and political attacks aimed at specific people.
• Public or private harassment. Whether it's in the community or in DMs sparked by something here.
• Publishing others' private information — physical or email addresses, workplaces, family details — without explicit permission. Doxxing is an immediate ban.
• Using the community to advertise, recruit, or scheme. This isn't a marketplace and it isn't a lead-generation tool.
• Impersonating another member or presenting AI-generated content as your own opinion, recommendation, or experience. we are here. is humans-only. Passing off AI output as human input is a violation.
• Any other conduct that a reasonable person would find inappropriate in a community built on trust and mutual respect.

Enforcement

Community managers and moderators are responsible for the health and safety of we are here. They will take appropriate and fair corrective action in response to any behavior they deem inappropriate, threatening, offensive, or harmful.

Moderators have the authority and responsibility to remove, edit, or reject content, accounts, or activity that doesn't align with this Code of Conduct. They will communicate reasons for moderation decisions when appropriate.

Scope

This Code of Conduct applies within all we are here. spaces — the app, any official communications we run, any in-person gatherings organized under the we are here. banner — and also applies when a member is officially representing the community in public. Bringing the community into disrepute outside the community is still within scope.

Reporting

If you experience or witness behavior that violates this Code of Conduct, please report it. Email contact@wearehere.com with as much detail as you're comfortable sharing. We will:

1. Acknowledge your report promptly.
2. Investigate fairly and privately.
3. Follow up with you about the outcome.

All reports are handled with discretion. We will not share your identity with the person you reported without your consent, unless we're legally required to.

We will not retaliate against you for reporting in good faith, even if the investigation finds no violation.

Consequences

Moderators will use these Community Impact Guidelines to determine the consequences for any action they deem in violation of this Code of Conduct.

1. Correction

A private, written notice clarifying the nature of the violation and explaining why the behavior was inappropriate. A public apology may be requested.

2. Warning

A formal warning with consequences for continued behavior. No interaction with the people involved, including unsolicited interaction with those enforcing the Code of Conduct, for a specified period of time.

3. Temporary suspension

A temporary suspension from the community. During this time, no interaction is allowed with community members or community spaces.

4. Permanent ban

A permanent ban from we are here. For serious, repeated, or egregious violations — harassment, doxxing, threats, or patterns of abusive behavior.

We reserve the right to skip steps when the severity warrants it. We will be proportionate. We will not be paralyzed.

On safety outside the community

Part of we are here. is helping members connect with communities and people in their physical world. We encourage that — but we also want everyone to be thoughtful about meeting strangers from the internet, even strangers who share your taste in music or books.

This is not a dating platform. Anyone using it to pursue romantic or sexual connections without the other person's clear interest will be removed.

If you're planning to meet someone you met here, tell a friend, meet in public, and trust your instincts. We care about your safety inside the community; we care about it outside, too.

Attribution

This Code of Conduct is adapted from the Contributor Covenant, version 2.1, with modifications specific to we are here.'s mission and values.